Category: Personal

  • Intense Back-to-School Emotions 101

    Intense Back-to-School Emotions 101

    September Means School’s Starting

    It’s been an extremely busy summer for my family and, while we’ve had an absolute blast, I’m ready to send my kid back to school! Even if she might not realize just how much she grows when she’s around other kids, her father and I definitely do. She was a preemie and has experienced some delays so seeing her bloom has been incredible. Since she started attending, though, I’ve struggled with working through my feelings about my own time in school.

    To be brief, it’s a work in progress. I want my daughter to have a childhood unmarred by my own baggage so I’m trying to focus on how I can enhance her experience and foster a love of learning that will be able to withstand the turbulence of growing up. That includes addressing medical issues that may crop up as she ages.

    School Pix
    Most of these are the results from school Picture Days

    My Baggage in School and Beyond

    This is something I’ve thought long and hard about writing, but I think I’m finally ready to commit to sharing it. I take psychiatric medications.

    That statement can be a loaded admission in some circles, and I know other readers who don’t agree with the idea. The anti-anxiety and anti-depressants have literally kept me going more times than I can count and aren’t even a question if I want to keep being alive. In early 2022, however, I added a new ingredient to my cocktail—Ritalin. The idea of my having ADD or ADHD wasn’t a new one, it was just difficult to discern which symptoms belonged to which diagnosis.

    Lack of focus/concentration (not just in school!) is a frustratingly common symptom. Has it been 2 years since I’ve finished a non-fiction book because I’m depressed or is there another culprit? (See also: diagnosing ADHD in a dreamy girl in the 1990’s)

    Happily, the last 18-24 months have shown a marked improvement in my anxiety and depression. The problem was I wasn’t finding sitting still or finishing things I’d started any easier to do. My husband has complained for years about my constantly moving hands; my sister would tell me to just watch a movie, but I retained more of it if I was also playing The Sims on my laptop; I had always felt like there was background noise in my mind.

    Whenever I would broach the idea of an attention disorder with doctors or therapists as an adult (24-31), I was told I would have been diagnosed by now. Again, getting this kind of diagnosis at school without hyperactivity as a girl in the ‘90s was an enormous task, and the addition of my pronounced anxiety, depression, dysthymia, and borderline personality disorder (BPD) with overlapping symptoms in my adolescence made getting diagnosed for ADHD not only harder but less pressing. There doesn’t seem to be much point to helping a to helping a depressed anxious girl focus on a class if the anxiety keeps her from going to school or the overwhelming negative thoughts make her want to harm herself.

    There I was in early 2022, anxiety at bay and depression under control but still not able to complete tasks or achieve goals (ironically encapsulated in an abandoned vision board from December 2021 whose last bullet pointed affirmation was “I have the focus to complete tasks I’ve committed to tackling”) so I scheduled an appointment with my GP to talk about an assessment. Long story slightly shorter, I “tested very high” for ADHD and we were going to start me on a low dose of Ritalin to see its effects.

    When I say Ritalin has changed my life, I’m not exaggerating. I’ve also been receiving a nerve block to treat a chronic headache issue and these two additions to my healthcare routine have me feeling like a new person! I always hated being told I had so much potential that I was falling short of, and it always felt like there was an intentional reason, even if it was subconscious, so I was to blame. I feel like I can access my own potential with medications handling the hurdles. You’ll still never see me using the word in a shaming way because I know how much it can hurt!

    In the context of my tarot readings, though, I have seen a difference. I’m able to hear and feel my intuition more clearly with the static in my mind turned down. Articulating my thoughts and perceptions comes more easily. There’s still stumbling over my tongue though I’m fairly certain that’s more a result of my brain working faster than my mouth and being a fast speaker.

    I guess what I’m wanting to achieve with this post is twofold. Firstly, it lets people who take issue with a tarot reader being on psychiatric medications a heads up that I’m possibly not the right reader for them. Secondly, and more importantly, to be true to myself by not pretending to be something I’m not and by owning that my psychiatric medications—a positive one!

    Me at school circa 2008

    Moving Forward

    My incredible daughter continuing to love school is so important to me. Her grades and achievements are secondary if she’s miserable when she has to attend or wants to harm herself because she can’t live up to others’ expectations. I owe it to her to not have my pain overshadow the benefits she gets from the school environment.

    Your Turn?

    If you feel like you want insight into past experiences (that don’t need to be handled by doctors, legal professionals, or the like) and you can relate to this post, reach out to me! They don’t have to pertain to school, but I do see September as its own new year with its own new year.

  • A Year in Review and A Year in Preview

    A Year in Review and A Year in Preview

    Happy New Year!

    I’m sure most of us are glad to see the other end of 2020, but it’s not as though all the world’s problems disappeared at midnight because the calendar page flipped. For my part, I want to take more responsibility for myself and my place in the world and encourage others to do the same. I bought myself the Biddy Tarot Planner for 2021 and used the spread suggested to close one year and open the next.

    While I was performing this exercise, I followed the advice in the Planner and sat with each question and answered for myself. I then drew all eight cards and interpreted them intuitively. When I read tarot, I usually read Reversed cards with different implications than their Upright counterparts; the number of Reversed cards that came up in this reading indicated that internal work was done and needed doing, which makes sense given the introspection and realigning I did this year. Here’s my “Review and Preview!”

    Review

    What were my biggest achievements in 2020?

    XXI The World (Upright)

    • Not only did the isolation I experienced not crush me mentally, but there were also actually times I felt my mental and emotional health was better than before these events.
    • I realized that, despite the anxiety and depression that have been near-constant companions to me in my life, I’m an optimist, but I know not every situation will work out for the best for everyone.
    • My take on priorities has shifted. I still accept people aren’t required to have the same (or even similar) views, but I understand better now that not everyone will approach differing points of view with respect or open-mindedness.

    What were my biggest challenges in 2020?

    6 of Wands (Reversed)

    • Coming to terms with my views of “We’re all in this together” directly conflicting with others seeing scenarios as “Us versus Them.”
    • Returning to my retail job and being confronted with hostility or outright aggression while trying to keep everyone safe and healthy. It was more difficult than I had anticipated.

    How did I develop as a person in 2020?

    7 of Swords (Reversed)

    I feel the biggest way I’ve developed as a person was accepting not everything needs to be compared in intensity, but I can work to fix issues where I see too much disparity. The fact that the wealthiest people in the world earned over $1 trillion while others lost jobs or homes, or worked dangerous jobs for not enough compensation, or were told any number of trite phrases by individuals totally out of touch with the experiences of the people they were discussing was appalling.

    How does this relate to the 7 of Swords (Reversed)?

    I’m going to be vocal about how much this upsets me! It’s not going to come from Erin in her ivory tower, who passes judgements while allowing others to bear the brunt of making changes. I may not have made a fortune during 2020, but I was certainly fortunate, and I can use that to help others. Working with others is important, too. Not only does the man in the card look smug, but he’s also acting alone. Getting all the glory and riches from his get-rich-quick heist will work for him by himself; we need a way for everyone to benefit from hard work.

    What did I learn in 2020?

    2 of Cups (Reversed)

    There’s more emotional friction right under the surface than is often acknowledged. Pasting a smile over seething rage isn’t healthy or sustainable.

    How would I describe 2020 in three words?

    Page of Swords (Reversed)

    ☼ eye-opening                                     ☼ disconnected                                    ☼ extreme

    Preview

    What aspects of 2020 can I leave behind?

    3 of Cups (Upright)

    My interpretation of this card may not fall in line with many books you’ll read, but this is where my intuition stepped in and tapped me on the head. When I looked at this picture, I felt like a spectator. I didn’t feel myself in the image at all. It truly felt like the card was a pane of glass, and I was looking at something I desperately wanted but couldn’t reach through the barrier. I need to leave behind my resentment of what I feel I don’t have, the fear of going for it, which leads to apathy and lack of action, and behaving like a bystander to my own life. I want to connect with the people and causes I care about and actively support them.

    What aspects of 2020 can I bring with me into 2021?

    2 of Wands (Upright)

    For 2021 I want to bring with me this momentum for wanting to effect change. I want to be resilient when things don’t immediately work out or I don’t receive instant gratification for my efforts. The focus needs to be on the importance of these issues changing properly, not always on my timeline.

    What new seeds and opportunities are being planted?

    King of Wands (Reversed)

    This is another card that tells me my heart and imagination are going faster than things will happen. I want the world to change for me, my family, and the world, but I can’t march in and say, “This is how things are now because I said so,” and everything will be exactly how I want it. Long-lasting change will need to be built on firm foundations, but the foundations need to be completed first. Don’t flame out!

    To sum it all up…

    Let’s be kind to each other and make 2021 a step to the future we want to see!

  • Happy New Year!

    Happy New Year!

    So, the title may be both slightly premature and optimistic, but I’m wanting and needing a new perspective.

    After I graduated, this month lost its significance in my life. It still doesn’t have quite the same impact as it once did because my child isn’t in the school system yet, however, this could be the year to change that. I’ve been giving it thought lately to restore its significance to my mind.

    I lived for back-to-school shopping; the feeling of writing on a fresh page of a brand new notebook remains one of the most satisfying sensations for me. It got to a point, honestly, where I was loath to use a scribbler more than three quarters because the feeling just wasn’t the same. The start of a new school year seemed like writing in a new book.

    With the current state of the world and how it’s impacted my life, the days (and weeks, and months) run together. I’ve gone through phases I know I’m not the only one to experience.

    1. Oh my gosh, the world is shutting down, and I have no idea what is going to happen! (This one is also a pervasive undercurrent for all phases…)
    2. Free time! I have so much free time to learn a new language/skill, implement a new routine, get on top of all the things I’ve been letting slide forever! Plus, so much family time!
    3. I want to do nothing. Nothing has changed, and it’s been so long (But has it? What even is time?), and I want to go out!
    4. I need to do something–anything! Look, I understand I’m in an extremely privileged position compared to a lot of people, but I’m getting cabin fever. Knowing both those things is causing me so much guilt and makes me feel apathetic.

    I’ve been cycling through those phases since March. Sometimes it’s one more than the others and sometimes i’s all of them in equal measure at once. By now, I’m so over myself that I’m going to focus on September 2020 being my new notebook and using my tarot cards as my favourite pen.

    selective focus photography of several people cheering wine glasses
    Photo by cottonbro on Pexels.com

    I did a reading for myself asking what I should lose, what I should hold onto, and what I should bring into my life in September. It gave me some really helpful insight for my life. The biggest takeaway for me was the lack of Swords and Cups cards. This tells me I need to untangle my head and my heart, get out of my own way, and just take action.

    Let me know if September is going to be your new notebook (or your metaphor of choice) and what you’re going to put into action!

  • EsotericErin’s Tantalizing Refresh: EsotericErin 2.0

    EsotericErin’s Tantalizing Refresh: EsotericErin 2.0

    EsotericErin is getting a bit of a refresh. If you haven’t been here in a bit (first of all, welcome to the club), I hope you will be delightfully surprised. If you haven’t been here before, the website always looked this good, but you can make up for lost time right now!

    My goal in scrapping previously posted blog entries is to make this website truer to myself and the image I want to stamp on my services. I feel like so many of my earlier posts were impersonal; it’s curious to me how sterile I managed to make my vulnerability. While the kernel of how I see or saw individual cards was genuine, the pieces of writing I produced seem too detached from my feelings and warmth.

    I know right now we’re all going through a frightening time, and I’d hate to look back on this and regret not being authentic to myself. Sincerity is what I want to bring to the table, and where better to start than here?

    Initially, EsotericErin was for me to grow my knowledge of tarot, astrology, and more. I’ve recently realized that if I were to have my way, I’d be forever dragging my feet without committing to a path. Not only would I be reluctant to declare myself as a Tarot Reader to others’ eyes for fear of being judged “not enough,” but I would also be depriving myself of owning my intuition.

    This is the first picture I associated with the idea of EsotericErin. The blog had begun about 18 months prior, but this was my baby step to what I saw as professionalism. By just looking at this image now, I feel it was a facade, my way of personifying what I thought other people were expecting. The problem is that it’s not exactly true to who I am or the image to which I want to be faithful.

    Maybe the person depicted here is who people immediately associate with a professional tarot reader, but when I examine the picture, I know I’m hiding in it. I’m hiding behind a filter to lighten my ruddy complexion, hiding my personalized clothing by sticking with a safe black blouse, and hiding my eyes—the windows to the soul.

    I’m not passing judgement on this picture, or the Erin who orchestrated this picture. It’s okay to make a misstep, it’s okay to continue looking for something you’re unable to define, and it’s okay to realign yourself to what you feel is your most authentic self. No one can be expected to be the identical person at the end of a lifetime they were at the beginning of that lifetime. When I was a child, I had to have my nightlight at bedtime, but now I need blackout curtains and a mask to keep out light while I sleep.

    While my example of feeling like I chose the wrong picture for my website may seem trivial compared to other mistakes, I genuinely believe there is a learning experience to be had from many mistakes. Acknowledging an error and being willing even to try to rectify it, is commendable. Anyone expecting constant infallibility from anyone else does everyone a disservice.

    When prompted to explain why I want to read tarot for people, my most sincere answer is “I want people to feel better”. I may sound naive, but I don’t think I am. There are no quick fixes in the Universe worth the breath used to share them, I know that; however, I try to avoid absolutes in my interpretations of the cards because nothing I see is 100% going to come to pass. You’ve made mistakes and you’re going to make mistakes in the future. I want to help you make better mistakes.

  • Late Night Catharsis

    I’ve been absent and there’s no excuse. I’m probably harder on myself than you could be so just know I am giving myself a lot of grief over my not posting. This website was supposed to be a labour of love because I love tarot, I love astrology, and I love writing. One would think combining many of my loves would make me more dedicated. Joke’s on me?

    I have been studying tarot and other occult schools for over half my life. I was actually at a psychic fair this weekend where people asked me how long I had been studying the tarot. It is easily 15 years, but probably closer to 17. It made me think about how dedicated I am to this vocation if I have only just now decided to take payment for my skills. I want to put my all into it, but (as usual) I’m scared. I like reading online, by email, because it gives me time to collect my thoughts and be as confident as possible in the information I’m giving. In person, however, I start suffering from pressure of speech. I want to share my knowledge, but I’m terrified it’s not going to be good enough for the client.

    Insecurity is no stranger to me. I can’t think of many times when I have felt worthy or even just good enough. I feel as though I have to prove myself to every single person I meet. It’s important to me that people approve of me. One of the readings I did this weekend started off as a 3-card mini spread and ended up being six cards! And it was not because of the client; this was all me, me trying to show them I was worthy of their money.

    Another client I read for had me feeling super guilty about taking their money. I don’t think it was deliberate, but when they asked if all I was going to pull were the four cards I had placed on the table, I had to say yes. That interaction ate at me for a few hours.

    The pressure I feel to do all the talking in a reading is likely a common one. I want to have a conversation with the client, but I feel it’s not always what they want. Another issue I have is that I don’t consider myself “psychic”. I try to use my intuition, but I don’t see myself as someone who talks to the dead, or can read minds, or whatever else you think constitutes being psychic. I feel I’m intuitive when I work at it, but often in the heat of the moment I find myself with an empty head and shallow breathing.

    I know that is something I must work on if this is something I truly want to pursue, it’s just hard for me. I feel like the society in which I grew up tries to divorce us from our intuition and encourages us to look at rational facts, but there has to be something to a blend of those. I bought a gift for someone this past week, someone I don’t know well, and I had no idea what colours to get it in. I just let my intuition guide me and it turned out she loved it! It’s so different, though, when I’m in a store and there’s no real pressure than when I’m faced with a paying customer who wants you to show off your knowledge.

    I think I need to start meditating. I’ve been saying that for years, but I think it’s really hitting home now. I need to learn how to ground myself so I don’t end up with my deer in headlights attitude when someone sits down in front of me for a reading. I have so little Earth in my chart it doesn’t surprise me grounding is important. Ask just about anyone who knows me and they would not say I’m down-to-earth. Practicality? Not my strong suit. Emotions, though, and quick thinking? I have those down.

    I’m not saying there are certain elements in a natal (or any astrological) chart that are more or less favourable, I’m just saying I need more balance. That’s why I sign off with “peace and balance”. I wish those for everyone—including myself.

    This post is getting a little long and I’m sorry, but it’s proving to be cathartic for me.

    I started a new job a couple of weeks ago because while I love my daughter more than almost anything or anyone in the world, I couldn’t hack it as a stay-at-home mother. It was one thing when my husband was on parental leave and we could have conversations to take the edge off of looking after a tiny human all day every day, but when he went back to work, I had difficulty not going stir crazy by myself. So, I found myself a part time job at a shoe store.

    The shoe store itself is great! I really like the people I work with and I love shoes. The biggest problem I think is its location. It’s in a mall and right across the hall from a New Age-y shop. There aren’t a lot of New Age stores here so I am drawn into this one by necessity and proximity. The employees there are very nice and fairly knowledgeable, but it’s in a mall so along with the New Age-y stuff you have Disney merchandise and novelty aprons. I saw a tarot deck there I’m interested in but surely do not need.

    I’ve been thinking more about my meditation problem (is laziness a problem or character flaw?) as I’ve continued to write, and I really think it would help calm my mind if I were to use it even in a loud, crowded room. This weekend at the psychic fair it was so loud in the room I could barely think. I have no doubt it impacted my ability to do a reading. I’m not complaining, just stating a fact. I know at the last event I did found me in a room by myself reading to one persons at a time and not bothered by extraneous noise. I can’t always have a perfect environment so I have to make the environment.

    The organizer of the fair suggested for the next time I might want to bring something to sell. I don’t know what that would be, but I have until March to figure it out. Maybe tarot card talismans? I’m not craftsy (I know that is not a word, but crafty isn’t the right word), but I could start working on finding something now and perfect it before March…

    I think it’s time to call this post done.

    Peace and balance,

    Erin

  • Esoteric Erin is Going Professional!

    Hello, dear readers!

    As the title of this post says, I have hung out my shingle; I am now charging for my Tarot services. I want to be able to reach as many people as possible, so I am offering readings over Skype. If you have come across this post and have questions you would like help answering, please, contact me! In case you’re wondering, I am not a medium, I cannot speak to the dead. I’m sorry if that’s what you’re hoping for. Prices are in CAD, and I do e-transfers and PayPal. Also, prices include a write-up of your reading.

    Prices: $30/half hour     $50/hour

    Email address: erin.labrie26@gmail.com

    Skype: erin.labrie26

    *For entertainment purposes*

     

    Peace and balance,

    Erin

  • Protection Spread

    I did a spread this evening because I wanted to start the week with a look at what protects me. I often feel exposed and vulnerable around others and this spread seemed to speak to me and offer me some insight.

    1. Am I open to the influence of others?: III Cups
    2. What energy surrounds me?: IV Pentacles
    3. Is there energy I must be aware of?: X Swords
    4. Who aids me?: IX Swords
    5. What protection can I count on?: VI Pentacles
    6. How can I ground myself?: V Cups
    7. What should I do to protect myself?: IV Cups

    The first thing I notice in this spread is the numerical sequence of the III, IV, and V of Cups. They’re not in order in the spread, but they are all there, and there is a notable absence of Wands cards. I’m going to do a write up as if I were doing one for a total tarot newbie. I want to get in the habit of saying everything as clearly as possible.

    Swords are the suit of Air and thoughts; Cups are the suit of Water and emotions; Pentacles are the suit of Earth and finances.

    I drew the 3 of Cups for the first position (Am I open to the influence of others?). My interpretation of this card in this position is that I am affected and influenced by others’ emotions. It may or may not be a good thing because it’s nice to be happy when other people are, but I do notice that if someone is in a bad mood, I am susceptible to that feeling, too.

    In the second position (What energy surrounds me?) I have the 4 of Pentacles. It’s hard to admit, but I can be very stingy. I like my things and I’m not always the best at sharing them.

    In the third position (Is there energy I must be aware of?) there is the 10 of Swords. I have battled anxiety and depression for most of my life, and I know this card is one of finality. I need to be careful of spiraling down into upsetting thoughts.

    I picked the 9 of Swords as the answer for position 4 (Who aids me?). It’s a stark contrast to the previous position and its meaning. I’m worried that the “who” aiding me is myself and my anxious thoughts. I know anxiety in small amounts is what keeps us sharp, but it’s confusing.

    For the fifth card (What protection can I count on?) I drew the 6 of Pentacles. I believe this means I can count on the generosity and kindness of others. I’m hoping I won’t need to rely on it solely, but knowing I have the support of others is a relief.

    The penultimate card I drew (How can I ground myself?) was the 5 of Cups. I am an emotional person, I know this about myself. I think that grounding myself will take some letting go of emotion. I know there are still two cups in the foreground and I should not dwell on the spilled cups, but rather focus on some emotions and not let everything cloud my judgement and get me too mired in my own feelings.

    I was given the 4 of Cups in the final position (What should I do to protect myself?). Protecting myself, I believe, will require taking my eyes off what I currently have and focusing on what else the Universe has to offer me.

    In summary, I think I can rely on others even when feeling alone: I have protection within and without. I can trust others will protect me and that, while sometimes it feels like my brain is working against me, it is trying to protect me; I just can’t let it overwhelm me.

    If you have any points I may have missed (it was a long day today), please, let me know.

    Peace and balance,

    Erin

  • Cusps

    As a departure from my previous entries, I’ve been thinking about astrology today. I can’t remember if it came first in my interests or the tarot, but I know I have the most books on the two of them in my personal library. Well before I was pregnant I picked up a book about astrological compatibility between children and parents (specifically mothers). I wasn’t trying to conceive at a certain point in time to have a baby that would be most compatible with me, but babies come when they want so it probably wouldn’t have gone according to plan.

    I like my birthday, personally. That might sound weird because, really, who doesn’t? I just mean that I like the symbolism of it. My birthday is June 21st. It makes it hard to read a horoscope if you don’t know your natal chart because June 21st is right on the cusp of the signs of Gemini and Cancer, so much so that some sources end Gemini on it and others start Cancer on it. For the longest time I read both and analyzed my day in the evening to see which more lined up with the day’s events. Finally, I had my natal chart done and read an ephemeris.

    My baby was due on September 5th, a nice, easy date for determining a Sun sign, but if you recall the first paragraph of this entry, babies come when they want. I have to confess, I was a little nervous about having a Virgo baby because I sometimes feel like I’m the antithesis of a Virgo. I knew there was nothing I could do, but hope I could make it work. I worried for nothing. My baby girl arrived a month and a half early: July 19th.

    Cusps can be a controversial topic in astrology. With an ephemeris and a natal chart that explores the sign every planet was in at your birth, the cusp is not technically a thing, but I believe there is something to be said about being born so close to two Star signs (I definitely feel I have traits of both Gemini and Cancer). It’s also interesting to note many of my family members are born on the cusp of two signs—my mother, my sister, and now my daughter. Even my husband (who wouldn’t touch astrology with a ten-foot pole) is born close to the cusp of Scorpio and Libra.

    If my girl possesses Cancer traits, Leo traits, or a combination of the two has yet to be seen, but I know she’ll be amazing.

    Peace and balance,

    Erin

  • I Am Still Here

    I guess my blog has been on the back burner lately… Life has been really weird and in upheaval this past year and a half. My husband has changed and been training for a new job, we moved half way across the country, and I had a baby.

    I have ideas to get back into the groove of posting. I will be using different exercises from books that should help me re-attune myself with my spiritual journey. Hopefully, you’ll be hearing from me soon!

    Peace and balance,

    Erin